Rejection, the most pathetic feeling ever.
While someone rejects you or your idea, it is more likely to be something about them and not about you. Before taking it personally, you must realize if,
- It can be possible that you and the other person are having different choices.
- You and the other person must be having some other perspective and opinion.
- They must be wrong about what they think of you.
In all these cases, there’s nothing about which you could be better. You only need to change the perspective from self-doubt to game change. Instead of taking it personally and doubting your own potential, you need to realize if it was you who was something less or it was them who needed something else.
Even if it’s something about you, you can change yourself. It is an opportunity for something better.
So, you just need to respect their choices and simultaneously respect your own. Rather than allowing any self-doubt to hold you back, understand what was the prime reason that was under your control and lead to your rejection.
4. Understand the reason for a rejection
Now, it’s time to realize the reality of rejection. You need to accept that you have been rejected and there must be a valid reason for that.
Whether someone has given the reason for it or not, whether you have got the feedback or not, you need to understand yourself, about what was the prime reason for your rejection.
For knowing the reason for your rejection, you need to calm yourself down and revive the whole situation that led to your rejection. You need to revive,
- What happened?
- Where did it go wrong?
- How did the situation get worse?
- Where your words or ideas got misunderstood?
- What was the wrong foot that you took?
If you want to turn your rejection into strength, you need to get answers to all these questions from your own self.
When you start focusing on reasons, you get to know the real situation and the possible solution for the same.
5. Finer your skills for what you are rejected
Every rejection is a signboard, that you can be something better. It just makes you realize that there can be something more that you can make out of yourself.
Instead of thinking that you are worthless with every rejection, if you realize that you have the scope of getting better, you’ll be excelling to heights. No matter it’s about family rejection, professional rejection, emotional rejection, love rejection, or even social rejection, you need to realize if the rejection requires you to change yourself. You must ask yourself if the change is good for you and if you need to get better.
Steve Jobs was fired from the company he founded. He said,
I didn’t see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.
Once you start believing that you are lacking something and you can actually change it, you can’t stop yourself from becoming the strength.
Getting better every day is required by everyone but those who get rejected get this opportunity explicitly. They get to have this chance to target the specific thing that needs to be changed.
6. Strength lies in being ready to face more
The last step in turning the rejection into strength is to be ready to face more. Without being ready to face more rejections, no one can ever turn it into strength.
In order to make ourselves ready to face more rejections, we need to accept them eternally. Rejection is mandatory for everyone and it is perfectly okay to have the rejection. We all need to realize that rejections are a part of life and everyone around us is facing them. We need to be courageous enough to face more such rejections.
JK Rowling, the most famous author of the Harry Potter series, was turned down 12 times before Bloomsbury published it. She said,
I wasn’t going to give up until every single publisher turned me down, but I often feared that would happen.
When we are ready to face more and more rejections in the future, we already have the power in ourselves, we already have inculcated the strength that rejection imparted to us.
Conclusion
Many known entrepreneurs have their rejection stories live on the internet. They all faced the rejections and rather than allowing it to hold them back, they turned it into strength. They didn’t let assumptions and self-doubt weather their own potential. They didn’t overlook the reason for their rejection and neither did they stop working on their skills. They wanted to turn their rejection into strength and they were ready to face more and more rejections. Whether we turn our rejection into strength or failure is the only determination of our life. To get one step higher, we need to face the difficulties associated with it. Rejection is also one of those difficulties that take you one step higher.
